You’ve been wrestling with codependency, low self-esteem, and low sense of self worth affecting your relationship with others aaand yourself for long enough.
I can help you move from that to a lifestyle of accepting, validating, & loving yourself fully & authentically, even when others don’t.
SELF LOVE OVER CODEPENDENCY
a course for folks who are ready to embody their truth & release people-pleasing habits.
Go from using other people as a guide for how you feel about yourself to
unapologetic embodiment of your needs and embodiment of your truth
without the need to people-please.
This all-encompassing course is for people just like you struggling with
USING YOUR VOICE
PUTTING OTHERS NEEDS ABOVE YOURS
SUPPRESSING YOUR EMOTIONS
DATING PEOPLE WHO DON'T LINE UP WITH WHAT YOU DESERVE
who are tired of feeling like the life, the relationships, and the friendships
they imagine for themselves just don’t line up with what they see and experience in reality.
It’s your time to not only learn how to release codependency, but to cultivate and embody that release in the form of authentic self-love.
“(Since SLOC), I’m less inclined to rush things, and look for external validation. Now I ask - what do I feel about this person/situation? Do they align with my core values? Do they add to my preexisting happiness, or do I see them as an escape from low self-worth?
-Pooja, former SLOC student
CODEPENDENCY DOES NOT HAVE TO HAVE A GRIP ON YOUR SELF-ESTEEM & SENSE OF SELF WORTH ANYMORE.
It was once thought that the things we come to know, learn, and believe about ourselves and others are fixed and set in stone, BUT research on a phenomenon called “neuroplasticity” actually shows that the brain can change and develop new patterns of thinking based on
If you once learned patterns that didn’t serve you and how you view yourself and others, you can learn patterns that do serve you.
What if this course could help you do this?
What if it could provide all the elements you need to help support this transformation?
You were made for more than
having your sense of self and your feelings be determined by others,
spiraling into thoughts of shaming, invalidating,
and criticizing yourself and giving your ALL to others,
and little to none to yourself, sis.
Discover the secret
& the alchemy to authentic self-love
& full-bodied alignment with your worthiness
Tell me if this sounds like you:
⚡ You constantly monitor your own behavior around other people and adjust yourself according to how you think they want you to act. You dream of being fully & authentically yourself without feeling self-conscious or bad about yourself.
⚡ You feel like you are stuck in a cycle of living an unsatisfying life where your relationships do not reflect what you feel you deserve. You often feel invalidated by the very people closest to you and You’re ready for a way to experience joy and bliss with the people you have relationships with— in a way that doesn’t leave you feeling like you have to people please and reject your needs and desires.
⚡ You have been the go to person for holding space and being available around the clock for everyone but yourself. You want to put yourself, your needs, and your emotions first, and you’ve waited for it long enough.
Self-love Over Codependency is the tried-and-true path to authentic self-love & codependency healing.
I know it because the techniques and lessons in this course was the path that got me and my clients to where they are today.
Imagine how incredible it’s gonna feel when you wake up in the morning not rushing
to check if *they* finally texted you back after 3 days of waiting for a reply but instead,
to questions and thoughts like
“How am I feeling today?”
“Wow I look BOMB today!”
“Do I want to do ______ today? Does this feel good to me?”
Imagine being able to attend events, parties, & dinners with your friends & colleagues
without feeling that *gaping* feeling of inadequacy, isolation, & self-comparison that comes clear out of nowhere.
Imagine ending your night not with overwhelming,
self-critical thoughts of how it was “dumb” of you to do “x”
or that you’re a mess because of “y” but instead,
smiling at yourself in the mirror beaming and radiating with joy-maybe even laughing with yourself because you completely accept your mistakes and mess-ups. Imagine being able to be care-free, relaxed and laid-back about your mistakes.
Imagine getting through your mid-day interactions with the cashier
at Target not focused on their shifting moods
or if they may be upset with you because they angrily handed you a receipt but instead,
so blissfully at peace with your inner world & self-esteem that you didn’t even notice their attitude.
It’s not your fault you don’t have this yet.
there were 3 things working against you:
You endured an emotionally abusive relationship or childhood (or both!) where you learned that who you are not “enough” and that you need to be changed/corrected/taught by someone outside of you how to get to be “enough”.
This is 100% UNTRUE.
Your worth CANNOT be concluded or determined by anyone or anything outside of you, this is within you.
You’ve come to believe that your critical inner voice that is constantly tearing you down, invalidating/downplaying your feelings, and comparing you to others is your voice. Also untrue.
That voice actually came from other people. Identifying your true inner voice & aligning with your true beliefs about yourself is how this false, critical voice loses its power.
You were made to feel like something was inherently “wrong” with you.
You feel like because of this, you are constantly getting involved with relationships or friendships
that don’t serve you/ do not feel fulfilling and you’re like, “Why does this happen to ME but not them?!”
This is rooted in the patterns/beliefs you learned in childhood/in past relationships and NOT in the truth of who you are.
I GET IT, SIS.
I'VE BEEN THERE TOO!
veryy codependent, low-self esteem, actively looked and searched for flaws in all my pictures & hated taking them.
free from codependency, fully embodying my self-worth, seeing myself through my own eyes, and untouched by others’ perceptions of me.
I remember waking up EVERY day feeling really low about myself.
I remember hating that I was constantly getting ghosted left and right by guys that I thought were the “one”.
I remember what a juggling act it felt like trying to make sure every single person around me was happy and not upset with me and I remember feeling like a lost cause- like I was broken, a burden, and “annoying” to everyone around me.
I remember what it felt like to go through the rollercoaster high, highs of feeling really good about myself when someone complimented me and the low, lows when someone criticized me.
I was always on one extreme or the other because I was truly convinced at my core that no one actually liked me and I knew it, but I wanted so badly to get other people to like me so that I wouldn’t have to feel the pain of what I falsely believed to be true about myself.
Here’s where things changed for me.
I learned about codependency and got the help I needed, and began to do my own inner work & I developed my own tools to help me learn how to work through codependency, shame, my harsh inner critic, and my low self-esteem in a healthy way.
I started choosing me.
I decided I no longer want to let life happen to me.
I decided I wanted to let life happen for me.
I began to get so intentional about learning the truth about who I was so that I could distinguish my thoughts about myself from other peoples’.
I began to accept myself, forgive myself, and celebrate myself.
Once I began to do this, I started to see myself- for the very first time- through my own eyes.
Now, I am so firmly rooted in the truth of who I am that no one’s criticism, thoughts, or opinions have anything on what I know to be true about who I am.
THE GO-TO COURSE FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO GO FROM BEING
codependent, having low self-esteem, and having low sense of self worth to a lifestyle of releasing shame, accepting, validating, & loving themselves fully & authentically and ONLY being available for healthy relationships.
HERE'S WHY THIS
IS DIFFERENT THAN
ANYTHING ELSE OUT THERE:
This course is incredibly comprehensive in that it teaches you the ins and outs of the foundations of cultivating Self-Love, Self-Acceptance, & Self-Esteem.
In this course, I teach you how to work with your ego (instead of having your ego work against you!) and how to move towards aligning with your higher self so that you can release the deeply woven stories your inner critic has been telling you about yourself that have been holding you back from authentically accepting, forgiving, and loving yourself.
Self Love Over Codependency teaches you how to release the false narratives you’ve developed about yourself as a result of codependency so that you can live for you instead of for others.
Self Love Over Codependency will bring you back to you.
Something I know you’ve been desperately wanting to experience for years
- if not your whole life.
Before SLOC, I had a lot more self hatred and loathing, I also felt guilty most of the time that the way other people respond and their problems were things that were my fault or within my control. After taking SLOC, I see myself as a being worthy of being loved and just being as opposed to doing. I can just allow myself to be. I am worthy of love and don’t have to earn it.
I was very anxious before SLOC. When you understand why your body and mind operates when you've experienced trauma, over time it helps you slow your thoughts down. Now, I am more cool, calm and collected because I feel empowered with the information I learned.
Life was dark. Life felt out of control and sometimes it can feel like that, however through SLOC I have the tools to manage through hard times and look forward to life and what it has to throw at me as opposed to dreading it. I have learned to separate myself from my thoughts which unbeknownst to me really had a hold on my life and my actions. I can be the parent I always needed and promise myself safety.
SLOC really helped affirm me and gave me the practical tools to be aware/conscious in all my little habits/practices. I also learned that I am really not alone in this self love journey just by interacting with other SLOC students.
Flash forward to when you are at the end of the 8-week course.
Just picture what’s gonna be possible for you when you finally
release the grip of codependency and step into the embodiment of self-love:
💕You will finally release shame and guilt from family members and exes that have been holding you back.
💕You will finally release the codependent patterns that have been holding you back from fully loving yourself.
💕You will learn to honor, trust, and use your voice with 0 FEAR around what people think of what you have to say
💕Struggling with abandonment & rejection from your childhood? with SLOC, you will finally begin to release feelings and fears around the rejection
💕Perfectionism, taking things personally, struggling with criticism? Easily a thing of the PAST.
💕You will make the incredible shift from desiring to people please and needing validation from others to getting validation from yourself without the need to people please.
💕You will accept yourself fully and will finally learn that you are good enough no matter WHAT people have to say about you.
💕No more feel responsible for the feelings of others or overwhelmed by the guilt of meeting their needs .
That’s been replaced with meeting your own needs -first & foremost- & releasing the responsibility of how other people respond or react to you with 0 guilt factor.
HERE'S HOW THIS
COURSE WILL PROVIDE
EVERYTHING YOU NEED:
Self Love Over Codependency includes:
🌙 Powerful, liberating affirmations and meditations that bring your new truths to your subconscious (I've frequently been told the meditations alone have helped students quickly shift into finally BELIEVING & anchoring in affirmations)
🌙 PDF guides and journal prompts to help you eliminate limiting beliefs and integrate the transformational lessons from the video lessons.
🌙 8 modules, and over 30 step-by-step recorded video lessons that will help you move towards self-acceptance, self-forgiveness, and alignment with your inner truth and away from the perfectionism, self-criticism, and the shame & guilt of your past.
REPARENTING & WORKING THROUGH YOUR NEEDS
Upholding & honoring your needs and communicating to yourself in a loving way that affirms your truths plays a big role in embodying self-love and changing the narrative of your harsh, inner critic.
Even if you did not learn this in childhood you can absolutely learn it, now.
📌 how to release the shame of your past and what others think about you that has been holding you captive for far too long.
📌Healing your fractured relationship with your parents/inner child wounds
📌Validating your needs & feelings
📌 how to validate your inner truth, even when everyone around you does not.
📌 becoming in tune with your needs & releasing the guilt associated with them.
📌 Working through abandonment, fear of rejection/relationships ending, and trauma bonds
📌 and more ...
TRIGGERS, GASLIGHTING, & BEING GROUNDED IN YOUR TRUTH
In this module, we go DEEP into working through triggers, responding vs. reacting, and staying ROOTED in your truth even with a history of gaslighting (occurs when people deny your reality and feelings)
📌 Responding vs. reacting. Learn how to understand, identify, and work through your triggers so they NO LONGER have a hold on you.
📌How to communicate with people even if they are "difficult"
📌 how to no longer let other people's emotions, thoughts, or opinions of you affect you
📌 and more ...
DEALING WITH ANXIOUSNESS IN CODEPENDENCY
In this module, we dive DEEP into ways to safely settle back into your body so that anxiousness that comes about in social settings, rejection, and abandonment NO LONGER has a hold on you.
📌 Feeling safe enough to use your voice, ask for things, and vocalize your concerns WITHOUT FEAR.
📌 tools to help decrease feelings of anxiousness, worry, and uneasiness in the body.
📌 How to no longer be preoccupied with what other people think about you in social settings
📌Releasing the fear, stress, and worry around abandonment and rejection
📌 and more ...
STORIES, LAW OF ATTRACTION, & LIMITING BELIEFS
In this module I talk all things self-esteem, the foundations of self-esteem, and how law of attraction & self-esteem work hand in hand in the way you see yourself & how you feel about what you deserve. Say goodbye to limiting beliefs like "I'm not attractive" or "people think I'm annoying" that are just NOT true. Time for you to flip the script and reframe EVERYTHING you once believed about yourself.
📌 limiting beliefs that you have come to believe about yourself and how to release them
📌 the law of attraction and how it shows up in your relationships, friendships, and how you feel about yourself and how to make it work for YOU.
📌 Stepping into the fullness and truth of who you are and letting go of the “stories” (limiting beliefs) you’ve been unknowingly telling yourself that have been keeping your self esteem low for LONG ENOUGH.
📌 and more ...
SHADOW WORK WITH THE PEOPLE PLEASER & THE CARETAKER/FIXER ARCHETYPES
In this module, we begin the true work: Shadow Work. We talk about ego, the role of the ego in our lives (hint: You've never heard anyone talk about ego like THIS before) and how to release the shame & guilt around people pleasing and so much more
📌 Releasing people pleasing and the shame and guilt around it.
📌 Embodying and upholding your personal truth- say goodbye to constantly shapeshifting into other people’s versions of “truth” and hello to standing firm in your own.
📌 No longer feeling like you have to take care of everything and everyone else before yourself.
📌Releasing the idea that what you DO for others is what makes you worthy
📌 and more ...
SHADOW WORK WITH THE PERFECTIONIST, THE CRITIC, & THE KNOW-IT-ALL AND THE SAVIOR/MARTYR ARCHETYPES
In this module, we continue the shadow work as we dive into the parts of ourselves that we feel we have to put ON for others: the perfect, all knowing version of ourselves and the part of us that sacrifices our time, resources, and energy for others.
📌 Releasing perfectionism and always having to have it "together"
📌 Actionable tools to teach you how to move from being critical towards yourself for your past mistakes to being understanding and non-judgemental towards yourself
📌 Finally allowing in SUPPORT and help so that you don't have to do "everything" by yourself.
📌Releasing the idea that you're the only one who HAS to help and show up for someone who asks
📌 and more ...
SHADOW WORK WITH THE VICTIM AND THE OVERTHINKER/WORRIER ARCHETYPES
In this module, we continue the shadow work as we explore feelings of helplessness, thoughts of "things always go wrong for me" and spiraling down the rabbit hole of thoughts of worry.
📌 Releasing the idea that things can't always be good for you. Releasing the idea that "something bad always has to happen"
📌 Shifting into feeling like you CAN make decisions for yourself and you CAN do "hard things"- trusting that you CAN make good decisions for yourself
📌 No longer spiraling down the rabbit hole of "what if (insert bad thing) happens?"
📌 and more ...
SHADOW WORK WITH THE HUMBLE ONE AND THE SUPPRESSOR/STRONG ONE ARCHETYPES
In the last module of shadow work, we explore the parts of ourselves that feel like we have to play small, suppress our voices, feel unworthy of compliments, and struggle with vulnerability and being "soft".
📌 Learning how to accept and feel worthy of compliments
📌 Learning how to open up that throat chakra and ask for what you need and speak on what is on your mind
📌Releasing the idea that you have to "be strong" and that "feelings are a sign of weakness". Learn how to make space and have compassion for ALL your emotions.
📌 and more ...
AND HOW ABOUT EXTRA BONUSES TO HELP YOU SHOW PEOPLE PLEASING THE DOOR EVEN FASTER?
🌙 BONUS PRE-WORK MODULE: No More Codependent Thought Patterns
🌙 BONUS MODULE 1: Maintaining & Balancing Your Energy around Narcissists & "Difficult People"
🌙BONUS MODULE 2: Survival guide for Triggers, CPTSD, Emotional Flashbacks, & Social Anxiety
🌙BONUS MODULE 3: Working through Overthinking & Anxiety of Anticipating Rejection
🌙BONUS MODULE 4: Using Meditation to connect to your Intuition/ Your Inner Truth
🌙BONUS MODULE 5: Reclaiming Who You Are After Trauma
🌙BONUS MODULE 6: Shifting into Feeling Worthy of Healthy Relationships
🌙BONUS MODULE 7: Trusting Your Intuition
🌙BONUS MODULE 8: Why Inner Work Doesn't Have to be Lonely or Stressful
In total, that’s over $6000 worth of incredible & life-changing material and support, all rolled into one. single. place.
But Self Love Over Codependency doesn’t cost that.
Whoa no, sis.
PAY IN FULL
$997Ready for self-study!
3 Monthly Payments of $340Ready for self-study!
EXTENDED PAYMENT PLAN
8 Monthly Payments of $131Ready for self-study!
Note! Only the self study version of SLOC is currently available! (The doors to the Live version are open 1-2x per year).
I used to define myself a certain way (based on what ex-partners and parents had said about me in the past). I carried these labels around my whole life, this course enabled me to see things differently. Those definitions/labels weren’t mine, they were someone else’s opinion, an opinion probably framed by their own shame/judgement/shadows of themselves. It’s been very freeing to let go of that label, it felt like a weight on my shoulders for so long.
*Note, this SLOC student has requested to have a pseudonym in place of her name to protect her identity
"I would take a lot of things personally. SLOC helped me to understand that someone disliking me had zero to do with my worth as a person and more to do with their mindset. I still feel a little triggered in that area, but what I learned in SLOC has helped me to stop, take a breath, and remember that it's not about me."
After multiple failed relationships I find it very difficult to fully engage in new dating experiences/romantic partners. It’ll take more time before I’m able to see the benefits in my love/dating life. But I am beginning to break patterns in the kinds of partners I seek out. The kind, generous, authentic people who don’t make me feel like I need to chase them are coming into my life without me having to try to seek them out. Healthier prospects are presenting themselves to me, despite me not being ready to accept them right now, I think the fact that I’m not finding myself falling into trauma bonds anymore is a good sign - maybe my ‘energy is at a different frequency’ now, so those toxic partners don’t get onto my wavelength anymore. We are all just mirrors, right! 😘
*Note, this SLOC student has requested to have a pseudonym in place of her name to protect her identity
Here’s why now is the perfect time for you to take this program:
I can guarantee that if you made it up to this point, you are:
⚡ Contemplating your current situation and realizing that being available for everyone's needs but your own ISN'T what you want
⚡ Tired of living a life of shame & guilt about who you are, your choices, and your decisions
⚡ Realizing something HAS to give. There has to be more to life than overthinking, feeling like you have to do everything "perfectly" all the time, and walking on eggshells around everyone
⚡ Realizing living a life for your family and for the unhealthy romantic partners of your past has taken its toll.
⚡ No longer wanting to wake up everyday feeling low about yourself.
⚡Wanting to feel good about who you are and wanting it to be authentic.
You’re tired of falling down the Youtube rabbit hole of “how to know your worth” and “how to love yourself” feeling inspired but not feeling like you truly have the tools to do it.
You're tired of trying to figure it out all on your own.
If you made it this far, you owe it to yourself to take this course and experience the transformation you’ve been looking for.
Imagine walking powerfully in your truth, being able to self-validate your feelings and emotions, and releasing the responsibility of how other people feel about you.
You deserve this.
The Self Love Over Codependency doors will only be open for a limited time,
will you walk over to the other side?
Will today be the day you finally say “yes” to your inner child and give them
the tools they’ve been looking for their whole life?
I hope you choose you, sis.
OMG YES, I WANT TO CULTIVATE AUTHENTIC SELF-LOVE